Millions of people use social media every day to express their feelings, upload pictures and maintain friendships. It can be fun to join in on the sharing. But when you’re going through a divorce, social media is the last place you should divulge your thoughts and feelings.
Your posts aren’t secure
Anger, frustration, loneliness and stress are just some of the emotions you might be experiencing during a divorce. Venting about these feelings can be a helpful way to get past them. So, you might think that social media is a quick and easy way to do just that. After all, if you’ve blocked or unfriended your ex, chances are they may not even see your posts. However, social media isn’t as private or secure as you might think.
Even if you use privacy settings to block unwanted eyes from viewing your posts, a mutual friend or family member may still have access to them. Your ex might see or hear about your posts from other people.
How can it hurt you?
A simple tweet or Facebook update can have unforeseen consequences in your divorce proceedings. But it’s not just wordy rants or public online disagreements that can get you into trouble. Any photos, videos, location updates or comments can reveal what you do in your free time, who you hang out with, and how you spend your money.
These types of posts can paint you in a negative, irresponsible or unstable light. Your ex can use saved screenshots and upload-dates as evidence against you in court, which can affect important court rulings such as:
- Custody arrangements
- Child support
- Alimony
- Equitable distribution
Social media alternatives
You have the power to keep social media from being used against you. It’s normal to seek support and validation during this difficult time, but don’t try to find it on the internet. If you can, avoid social media altogether and instead turn to a trusted family member or friend who you can express your fears and frustrations to.
Divorce is a stressful, painful process. Don’t let a social media slip-up keep you from getting the most out of your divorce.
