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Contentious ex? Don’t fall into the trap!

On Behalf of | Feb 12, 2020 | Family Law |

Having to deal with an ex because you share a child is a difficult situation. Throughout the process of raising the child, you’ll have to work with the other parent to make certain decisions. You may also have to attend the same events for the children. Being able to work with your ex through all of this can make life less stressful for you and your children can also benefit.

If your co-parent doesn’t want to work as a team, you might have to rethink the parenting style. For example, using another form like parallel parenting can limit the communication you have with your ex because each parent runs their home without concern with what happens at the other parent’s home. This might not work for everyone though, so you have to think about your situation.

Regardless of what type of arrangement you have with your ex, you need to ensure that you’re being respectful. This one point can have a big impact on how contentious matters are handled. When either party is disrespectful, the situation can devolve quickly because tempers can flare. This makes it difficult to work together to come up with a common solution.

You also need to think about what you’re letting the children see and hear. They should never be asked to relay messages between parents, and they shouldn’t be privy to the details of every disagreement. Instead, they should be give a suitable environment in which they can thrive.

Turning to the court for assistance when you can’t come to agreements is also possible when the matter is significant. This can include things like clarification of points in the parenting plan or modification of the plan.